So I dated this guy (Chance) for 2 years... throughout the relationship I was really bad towards him. I was very insecure so I was unhappy, and never trusted him with anything. He never did anything to make me not trust him...I was just always worried that he would cheat on me. He was so good to me, but finally he got sick of me being unhappy and accusing all the time and he left.
Well, we broke up over a year ago, but about a month ago we started talking again...it started out through text messaging, led to phone calls, and eventually we hung out. The first time we hung out all we did was talk about everything...and he just basically told me that he still has feelings for me, but I totally pushed him away. The 2nd time that we hung out at his place all day and eventually had sex... we talk almost everyday, and he gets jealous when I talk about other guys and of course I get jealous when he talks about other girls. Him %26amp; my brother are close and my brother has been telling him that we need to get back together, and all Chance does is say ';maybe with time';.
Today was the 3rd time we hung out...he came over to my house and we layed in my bed and talked for about 2 hours...and he finally admitted how much he missed me. We had sex again, but this time he didn't wear a condom %26amp; when he was about to finish he said he was going to go inside of me (sorry for the details), I didn't stop him, but I thought that was kind of weird because he knows I'm NOT on any type of birth control. Well, after that we went to the mall he kept pointing out baby stuff and saying ';we should start shopping early'; and just joking comments about how I could have possibly gotten pregnant, like he kind of wanted it to happen. I bought him lunch, a shirt %26amp; a hat because I told him I was going to try to make it up for all the crap that happened in the past.
I'm 23, I go out and have my fun, so I know there are plenty of other guys out there, but I love Chance a lot, and I am so comfortable around him...now that he is back in my life I don't know how I could see him out of it.
Do you think we will ever get back together or does it sound like he is just using me??? He won't tell me that he loves me or nothing, but he makes jokes about having a baby with me?? Ugh, I'm so frusterated! Someone PLEASE give me some advice!I need serious advice... HELP!?
Run to the pharmacy and get the ';day after pill'; and take it!
Neither one of you are mature enough to bring a new life into this world!
The very last thing you need for your relationship is a baby!I need serious advice... HELP!?
Honey, he comes over, you have sex. That's a ';booty call';, not a relationship. Cut him off, and stay away from him.
And pray you didn't get pregnant, that's ALL you need.
He's using you and you're going to end up a single mother raising a baby alone if you don't wise up.
Tell him about your feelings. - Then he has to decide.
So I dated this guy (Chance) for 2 years... throughout the relationship I was really bad towards him. I was very insecure so I was unhappy, and never trusted him with anything. He never did anything to make me not trust him...I was just always worried that he would cheat on me. He was so good to me, but finally he got sick of me being unhappy and accusing all the time and he left.
Well, we broke up over a year ago, but about a month ago we started talking again...it started out through text messaging, led to phone calls, and eventually we hung out. The first time we hung out all we did was talk about everything...and he just basically told me that he still has feelings for me, but I totally pushed him away. The 2nd time that we hung out at his place all day and eventually had sex... we talk almost everyday, and he gets jealous when I talk about other guys and of course I get jealous when he talks about other girls. Him %26amp; my brother are close and my brother has been telling him that we need to get back together, and all Chance does is say ';maybe with time';.
Today was the 3rd time we hung out...he came over to my house and we layed in my bed and talked for about 2 hours...and he finally admitted how much he missed me. We had sex again, but this time he didn't wear a condom %26amp; when he was about to finish he said he was going to go inside of me (sorry for the details), I didn't stop him, but I thought that was kind of weird because he knows I'm NOT on any type of birth control. Well, after that we went to the mall he kept pointing out baby stuff and saying ';we should start shopping early'; and just joking comments about how I could have possibly gotten pregnant, like he kind of wanted it to happen. I bought him lunch, a shirt %26amp; a hat because I told him I was going to try to make it up for all the crap that happened in the past.
I'm 23, I go out and have my fun, so I know there are plenty of other guys out there, but I love Chance a lot, and I am so comfortable around him...now that he is back in my life I don't know how I could see him out of it.
Do you think we will ever get back together or does it sound like he is just using me??? He won't tell me that he loves me or nothing, but he makes jokes about having a baby with me?? Ugh, I'm so frusterated! Someone PLEASE give me some advice!
OK, advice it is.......You realize I m going to bring up the unprotected sex first, right? Be responsible, make a baby when you are actually trying to, when you have a lifestyle that affords having one. Not to mention the STD aspect....OK.
Now you contradicted yourself, you said he told you his feelings the first time you hung out, and you pushed him away.....but yet at the end you say you love him. It sounds like you have been pushing him away a lot. And that's fine, but don't expect him to answer with anything other than ';maybe with time'; when asked if you two would get back together. And if you two are not sure on your relationship status, how are you possibly going to bring a child into the mix?? My thoughts are that you two have some issues to be worked on first, trust, etc. before you bring a child into this dynamic. If he wont even tell you he loves you, how can you possibly have unprotected sex with him? Take time for yourselves, to heal all the hurt and trust issues from before, and if it is meant to be, it will happen.
wow thats really hard umm...
if you really do love him talk to him i know its hard but if you tell em how you feel he might tell you how he feels.if he wants to have a child with you it could be a good thing he could be using you but whyy would he chose you and not another girl he must like you or have really strong feelings for you.i think its possible that you guys will get back together
HOPE THIS HELPED
good luck
I can't say for sure, only you would know that, its funny were life takes us though, and if you can get him to admit that he still loves you, then maybe it was meant to be, be cautious though, I would not have slept with him so soon, if he really still cared for you he would have waited as long as it takes. You should try cutting sex out for now and re-develop your relationship, if he gets angry that you don't want to right now, then you know he is only using you. I must also say that sometime's things ARE NOT meant to be, but maybe you have resolved your trust issue's in the past year, sometimes in life all we need is to figure things out and try again, that times apart may actually make your relationship stronger, best of luck to you
It seems to me like he really cares for you and he was trying to get your pregnant so you have to be in his life. I had a guy do that to me. I was awful to him because I didn't really care for him that much but he tried to get me pregnant and then started talking about how if I was, we had to get married. In my opinion, I think he really wants to be with you and he thinks you will feel the same if you get pregnant. Talk to him, be honest with him. I hope it works out!
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