I NEED SOME ADVICE. HELP ANYONE?

I am 21 this girl I met about a month ago is 23. We went out to the Chicago Cubs game and we had a good time. She's a die hard fan like me! We've been talking on and off now. She used to text me every night at 11pm, but hasnt recently I guess because of her new job. After a few weeks of talking to her I find out that she still has feelings for her ex boyfriend and even has a pic of him and her on her facebook still. I asked her what was up with that. Her ex is now dating a different girl for a year now and this girl I like said that he relayed to her that he plans on staying with this new girl. The girl I like said that they planned marriage, but since he's with a new girl obviously thats not happening. I just talked to her again tonight online and this was our conversation down below.. Is she into me at all like that after reading our conversation? How can I make her forget about him because they dated for like 2 years? How can I win her heart and create attraction? I am actually going into the Navy Reserves and becoming a Police Officer here soon in the civilian world. Will that create attraction to her? What do you guys think?











Yesterday


11:31pmElizabeth


hey whats up





11:32pmMichael


hey





11:32pmElizabeth


whats going on





11:33pmMichael


just got a lot of **** on my mind





u?





11:33pmElizabeth


u ok?





jus tkinda taking a break from going through ****





11:33pmMichael


ya ill be fine. what do you mean in regards to yourself?





11:34pmElizabeth


my room, still kinda unpacking from when i moved back 3 months ago





11:34pmMichael


i see





how was your day





11:34pmElizabeth


was good, first day of work





lotta fun





11:35pmMichael


where do you work





11:35pmElizabeth


im back at camp, but facilitating





11:36pmMichael


i dont know. im just really distraughted. got alot going on.. working a lot. studying for this military test, graduating boot camp, testing for police depts and hopefully getting hired, a relationship....





11:37pmElizabeth


lots of things going on





11:37pmMichael


anything new with you





11:38pmElizabeth


just starting work, looking for full time jobs





it sucks





mostly stressing over that





wanna have my own place but its gonna take so long





11:39pmMichael


i know so do i.





where do you want this to go? not trying to be pushy but would like to kow





11:40pmElizabeth


u and me?





11:40pmMichael


ya





11:40pmElizabeth


well ur looking for something right now





im not, im looking for friendship, and taking my time with things, like ive told u b4 because of my past, im not sure where things may go. (more then friendship that is).





but ive also said that i do want a r/ship in the future, im not rushing into things





11:43pmMichael


Im not looking for something like tomorrow or next week. I just like to know if someones at least interested so im not wondering ya know. I understand you still have feelings for him, but again I dont want something to happen if it did with you and I then one day he says he wants to get back with you and then your gone ya know?





11:44pmElizabeth


yeah i understand, thats whats holding me back from dating really cause i want to be in it 100%...but if i was in a r/ship and he came crawling back, i wouldnt dump the person i was with for him.





i would see where that person and i would end up going





11:45pmMichael


Right i understand. Im just saying bc that has happend to me before so Im just being cautious. I respect you and your a lot of fun so I dont mind hanging out.





11:45pmElizabeth


me neither, and i mean i cant have enough friends, so that doesnt hurt me lol





11:46pmMichael


i think that guy biff wants you lol





11:46pmElizabeth


hahaha brian?? why do you say that





11:46pmMichael


idkk he just seems like he does lol





11:46pmElizabeth


he is one of my very close friends, and he does like me, but nothing is hapening there





and hes very internet happy...always on facebook





11:47pmMichael


i could see that a mile away lol.





anything happening here lol....





a lil





11:47pmElizabeth


NOooooOOooO! not b/w us





i have nothing goin on with any men lol





11:48pmMichael


huh? no i meant like do you see me in that way or w/e lol





11:49pmElizabeth


i dont know weve hung out once and have talked several of times, i think you're an all around great person, i just havnt spent a lot of time with you to get to know you a lot more





11:49pmMichael


alright. ill take that.





what time you work tom?





11:49pmElizabeth


off tomor, doing **** w/my mom then goin back wed for 6 days in a row :(





11:50pmMichael


dammmm





that sucks





so im not trying to be a jerk or anything but does he still have feelings for you or is he seeing someone else





11:51pmElizabeth


who my ex





yes and yes





but he lives an 1.5 hours away, always working and we talk once every couple a weeks





11:52pmMichael


ok he has feelings for you but he's seeing someone else...





11:52pmElizabeth


hes been seeing her for a yearI NEED SOME ADVICE. HELP ANYONE?
Well the conversation is a little much but she already told u where she stands..shes not looking for anything serious but friendship becuz she still has feelings for her ex (n shes dumb if shes not over him yet) but she's been up front with u n theres nothing u can do but take it a day at a time..besides it wouldnt be fair to u if she got with u but not really over her ex..shes only hung out with u once so dont dwell so much on the situation..ur looking for comfort right nowI NEED SOME ADVICE. HELP ANYONE?
I don't have much advice but to tell her that he's kind of a cheater to like someone else while he's been dating someone for a year now.