I need some advice, help please?

now this is going to be long, so bear with me!








okay well, im going to give you a little bit of background information. i have been dating this guy for about a year now. hes older than i am, a youth minister, going to college to get his degree, hes just a really really amazing guy. but, i have this ex. i think about him quite a lot. i dont mean to, it just comes up when i hear a song, when i hear his name, when i smell his cologne, when i drive by certain places, or do certain things. and here lately, its been hitting me pretty hard. ive tried to convince myself that im over him, but im not.





my ex has been coming into town to hang out with me the past few days. i want to be with him, i reallllly do. but then i think about what happened when we broke up, and what he did to me. and what i went through for months %26amp; months after %26amp; he didnt even make an effort to care. the last thing he said to me was ';we were over a week ago.'; that was it.





my boyfriend now, he was the one who got me through it. he listened to me every single day, stayed up with me every single night to hear my cry and whine. and he is still with me. hes amazing.





i want my ex boyfriend back, he told me that he has changed. he promised me that he wouldnt mess it up again. but if he does, i dont want to go through what i went through again. it was hell. but i love him. i'll lose my boyfriend now, completely. even as a friend. i dont know what to do?.





is it better to live in the moment or for the future?





thanks for listening. :)I need some advice, help please?
I don't think it's worth dumping somebody who treats you good and cares about you for a person who didn't care at all. You're thinking about the good times with your ex. You can't forget about those bad times.


What your ex is saying to you is most likely bull because he's probably asking you back for himself, regardless how you feel. Don't jump back into time, it's the worst you can do. Don't even bother being friends with your ex, you guys are history. Eventually, he'll find somebody he's comfortable with, also. Look forward to the future.