I need some Advice...HELP?

hi friends....well, i need some help...





im in confused mind...i dunno wat should do...im planning to get married to my cuz..its arranged marrige...well, im waiting for her reply...well, beside tht i have gf...recently my gf want to break up and she want to be alone...we were gud relationship(long-term) suddenly she said i wanna break up...i felt bad.....well, we still didnt break up and we still talk to each other...i wanna get back to her...but i dunno wat should do...either tell her everything to my gf or get along with her? or marrry my cuz? im sure tht i cant go against parents wishes...it will hurt them...but im confused...





shall i email to her abt everything or talk to her?





hoping to get advices...thanks!I need some Advice...HELP?
listen you idiot


gosh asians (im one 2 by the way)


end of the day your the one getting married, NOT UR parents


and your cuzon, you dnt know how your relationship will be like so, why take the risk?


you had a girl friend, if you had a good stable relationship, wouldn't chooing her be a wise thing to do?





its obviously ur dicision end of the day, so think carefully


the pros and the cons





good luck!I need some Advice...HELP?
Talk to her in person, it is more personal than an email, however if you feel you cannot express the way you really feel in person and that you can get your point across better by writing it down then do that. you have to make the choice, you only get one life and a life without the woman you love will be one you will regret later on in life.
You should not marry cousins. It is not medically advised. Arranged or not. Ask an OBGYN about conception. It seems you have a distant cousin though, which may be better. Still odd for me though.





Regardless, go for love. When the sh** hits the fan in 5 years what will you have to go back on if not love?





Going against your parents is okay sometimes. Are you in the US? IS your family first generation or something? It may be harder for them to understand if you or they are. I don't understand the traditions, and it seems strange to me to marry someone that you are not head over heels in love with. Your GF probably feels the same way.





GO FOR LOVE!
well why dont you want to marry your gf??


just think about it.


what makes your cousin any better than your gf?


are you sure you want to marry her?


think about how life would be like if you were with your cousin...now with your gf.


whats wrong with your gf? is she just geting oring or something?


well all i can sayy is that you just gotta think about it really hard and you'll find an answer.
where do you live??? In the United States it's not legal to marry your cousin. (something about in-breeding causing birth defects) arranged marriage?? I guess it happens within certain religions, but very seldom. Are your parents going to be living with this person for the next 40-50 years... no??? then why do they get to choose??
First of all, do not marry your cuz because that just is not right in the first place. Follow your heart and take your time. No one says you have to get married right now and if they are than tell them to leave you alone even if it's your parents.
uughhhh dont get married it will ruin your life you will be forced to live with sum pig who dusnt wash and ewww just dont do it heor she will try to kill you while you are a sleep i get the vibe


thank you and goodnite:)
If you're not a virgin, tell your cousin's parents.





And remember, unless you've got a job. Don't get married or even have women.





Akash? Isn't that sanskrit for aether?


http://www.16pi2.com/gforce.htm
Hard question. I would be open about everything and totally let them both, and your parents, how you feel. Be open with your feelings.
arranged marriage by whom? I think being honest is most important. Do the right thing for everyone involved
Go against your parents wishes. Follow your heart. Go for your gf.
You need to be on your own to take a decision of yours.





Piggy riding parents make you a feeble specimen.
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go for the woman you love
How old are you? Are you like 12 or something? Who run your life, you or your parent? After have your own family, you want your parent to tell you what to do your whole life? You need to grow up or you deserve to lose your gf. You go with the person you love, the person who make you feel the most confortable, the person who love you. Arrange marriage is history... Sorry to have offended you but it's the truth. You probably really hurt your gf feeling... You need to tell your parent that you're not comfortable with their idea of arrange married and if they love you and want you to be happy they need to respect your decision. Then go tell your gf you're very sorry and that you love her very much. Goodluck, i hope you'll have good future!
Akash, dude, your answer is pretty much clear! Your girlfriend just broke-up suddenly, feel lucky that she did it now isntead of marrying and then realizing that she lost interest in you. Her feelings dont seem to be genuine and as it is, since your parents will be hurt if you go againts their wishes, you should do as they say. Parents choose the best, if they have chosed a girl for you and your gf has left you, do the same. I know it must be painful coz she broke-up like that, but this is temporary. If she just doesnt care about getting back to you, why do you want to pamper her? Do you think she's worth it???





All the best.
oh my my..u r playing with three lives..urs, ur cousin's n ur girl friend's. First of all tell ur parents that I m not in hurry I need some time to ponder over ur suggestion then talk to ur girl friend and get the things settled as soon as possible.Ask her whether she is ready to build a long term relationship with you or not..if she is not interested then forget about her.


Now atleast u know which way to go.u have two options


1. If u think ur cousin wil b a good life partner then go for her and erase the past memories of ur GF from ur mind.


2. Involve urself in ur career, job or studies .try to forget ur past and then after a year or so tell ur parents that now u r ready for marriage.


Best of Luck but remember it's u who hav to take the bold step.
Just marry your cousin. It's just impossible for you to break out of what your culture has been imposing in it's young generation for centuries of tradition. Are you traditional or not traditional? You know there is no way you're going to tell you parents you're not comfortable marrying your cousin, and that you just want to continue on with your girlfriend, because you want to continue to benfit from the life you've come to know with you're family. You're GF wants nothing to do with you because you are going to lead her to believe you can break tradition, when really you can't. Then she will have wasted another year. Let her go.