i have some friends and all they talk about is about a guy i hate, they even know i hate that guy but they still talk about him. i try to change the subject but they ignore me like if i am not there.i even leave but they tell me to come back, and they keep telling me to be friends with that guy but they don't even know what that guy did to me, they ignore me when i tell them what happened!and the worst part is that they are my only friends. i am the type of person who cant say NO because i don't want to hurt the feelings of others, but i don't know how to explain to my friends how i feel because they are the closest friends and i do not want them to be mad and when they talk about something they know i don't like to talk about, they do it! so then when i leave them they still do not realize why i am leaving, what should i do?!I need your advice ,help me?
Your friends probably don't understand you if you say it. But if you can make them feel that you really hate this guy and stuff, maybe they will be more tactful. If you are better in writing then just tell them that way.
If even such a big reaction to their actions go unnoticed, they are not really that good as friends but they are just trying to help you solve your social problems so school life will be easier for you.They talk about that guy hoping you would forgive him. For all you know, that guy you hate might want your forgiveness and asked you friends to help! Friends tend to overdo things without noticing it.Just tell them straight in the face.
If they still do not listen, I guess you just have to do something to force them to listen to you. Most of the time they are sanding beside you listening, but its one-ear in one-ear out kinda thing.
Also, I don't encourage you to hold a grudge against anybody unless they really did something to seriously irritate you. I once held a grudge against a person and my teacher was the middleman. Imagine how terrible that was. If you are like meeting him everyday, then its no use to keep hating him because this way, you will never get along.
Just think if he is worth your dying brain cells which are sacrificed in the hating of him and you will eventually reach an answer. All the best =).I need your advice ,help me?
nothing is hard bout this just tell them they are not being good friends by doing this to you some times friends can be such AZz for real I'm mean just stay away from them.
i know how u feel... the same happens to me... just try to talk to them n make them realize that it hurts u everytime they talk about it... or do like me i put my ipod on n let them talk...
Sunday, December 27, 2009
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