I'm only 17 and about to be a dad. Advice, help, anything?

My girlfriend's pregnant and I really don't know what to do. I moved here in December and we've known each other for about a year. We started having sex in March, before that we were both virgins. She was on the pill but I guess something went wrong and now she's 6 weeks pregnant. When she found out, she told her dad even before me. Her dad is supportive of her. Her mom passed away long time ago so she feels a little lost since her dad doesn't know much. She came over and told my parents and I at the same time. My parents said they would support us and buy us a house if we thought it was necessary.





I love my girlfriend, but I don't want her to think a child will hold her back. She was looking into universities already since she wants to be a nurse. I can't help but feel responsible..





What is the best thing to do in our situation? I still want her to go to university and become a nurse like she's always planned. I can look after the baby in the mean time while she is at school.I'm only 17 and about to be a dad. Advice, help, anything?
It is okay to be scared, sad, worried, etc. It is very normal with most parents and of course being young gives you many more reasons to feel this way.





I think you both need to finish high school and get jobs after that. I think her taking classes to be a nurse would be fine, but I also think you need something to do besides sit with the baby all day. If your parents are willing to care for the child while you are in school or at work this is a HUGE plus. However if they work themselves and this is not possible I would start calling child care facilities. They book up fast, if you plan on doing this call now (I know it sounds crazy but these places have waiting lists for babies who don't even exists yet sometimes).





I think it is great your parents are so supportive. You should be very thankful that they care so much about you and are willing to help you out. I would really suggest taking what you can from them...but not taking advantage of them.


Don't listen to hateful comments. Many people depend on their parents until their early 20's, especially if they go to college. Please do not feel you are ';mooching';. You are doing what is best for your baby. And that takes being more of a man, than anyone who refuses help.





It will be hard, you will hate it at times, you will wonder ';why me'; and feel like your life is over...it's not. You can make it and you can be wonderful parents.





See if there are parenting classes or at least child development classes you can take to help you feel more comfortable. Volunteer at your local YMCA, school, etc. with kids. This will also make you feel more comfortable with children.





Best wishes and good luck.I'm only 17 and about to be a dad. Advice, help, anything?
You are a good man.....be there for her, support her and encourage her. Do your share in raising the baby. But, don't forget about your dreams. Help her while she gets through school and then if you planned on going to school, go. Be patient through this. It's ok.
I would suggest telling your girlfriend that she needs to go to school and accomplish her dreams. If not, she may have a feeling of never doing what she wanted to do and it can lead to a dissatisfied life.
Well it sounds like you will be OK. Stop stressing, you have a job, your parents are supportive and things look good. Tell your girl she does not have to quite school. They have programs that will help with child care.
Make sure you let her know that she can still pursue her dreams. I'm glad your sticking it out with her. Hope everything works out. :)
What I would give to be in your situation with the preggiez girlfriend n all. I want a kid so bad :(
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I can understand why you think you might be holding her back, but truthfully your not. your man enough to not only stay home with your new baby but also make sure your new family has what it needs thanks to your parents. so i don't think you should be sad because she still can go to school and not have to struggle with a new baby. Good Job New Dad!! LOL
I am glad to see you stepping up to the plate. Its not going to be easy but you need to express to her that you want her to pursue her dreams and that you will be there by here side to support her. She may not want to start her dreams till the baby is older and if that is what she decides tell her you stand by her and will help her no matter what.
Make sure you both get to pursue your dreams and goals for life. It will take some sacrificing on both your parts. Having a child is a big responsibility. So please consider every angle to this dilemma, before you make a life changing decision. You will have to mature fast. You will have to learn how to be a responsible adult before you ARE one. I have good news for you though, you are not alone. Check with the hospital about any programs that could help you in your teen pregnancy. What you need now is information and facts. As you learn and as time goes by, don't lose sight of the fact that you are still young and somehow you have to manage to make time to do some fun things that normal kids your age do. Both of you still need to have fun. And enjoy your baby. Try thinking of the baby as a gift, a very valuable gift. Good luck to both of you.
kids having kids.. isn't that wonderful... In a falling economy, what do you have to offer this child besides your parents taking care of the baby majority of the time. Good luck and hope that you have more then a personality to offer the baby.
sounds like things are looking on the up side of things.. both sides are supportive.. you have something you can do for work and she has a desire to go to school.. all things can work out as long as you both have a understanding and good communication.. start talking about the plans and the views you both have now, so you are well prepared for the little one to make his/her grand entrance.
Its good that you want to stick by her. Its also good that your parents want to help but believe me when i say accept help in moderation because whats yours is going to be hers. Things could go very bad down the road and what y'all thought was yours ain't. You said you could watch the baby while she went to school your but better be working and let grandparents watch the baby. This is very serious for a very long time. The responsibility of a child a wife and home is not easy . Good luck and god bless.
Congrats daddy!!!





Well, I have to wonder why you're even asking the question, your head seems totally in the right place.





I was gonna suggest you get a job, but you've got that covered. You both have the support of family, financial for now and emotional. With your families working together she can go to school, and you can work and probably go to school yourself if you want. Let her get started in school first.





Your baby will be surrounded by love from the start, not drama and fighting, that's a good thing, and I would like to personally thank you for not even entertaining the thought of deserting her and the baby. You keep your head right there on your shoulders where it belongs~
Well, with what is involved here, there really is not one particular thing that is going to really make things right. Certainly you personally should count your blessings, in view of the relations involved being so supportive and vocally so.





My advice to you is to go to parenting classes, ideally with your girlfriend, presuming of course that the same is still okay with carrying the baby to term. The stress of what is involved on you personally and conceivably on your relationship with your girlfriend, i.e. down the road, if not now, may also make some professional counselling (couples' or individual counselling) something for you to seriously consider.





Wish you the best as to the ultimate outcome, etc.
Hey man, keep your head up.





My parents were 17 when they had my older brother. My grandparents helped them out too and they did just fine. They raised 6 awesome and smart kids. Just be happy, always.





If my parents were to give you advice, they'd probably say just be there for each other and that little rugrat on the way.
Firstly I want to say thank you on behalf of the girls in this situation who's boyfriends run out and leave them hanging. Firstly you are doing the BEST thing possible by taking your responsibility and stepping up. Tell her these things. That you love her and want her to be happy, that a baby is a wonderful beautiful thing and it doesn't mean you have to give up on the things you want. Support her, love her and be there to help when the baby comes and I am sure things will be ok. The best of luck to you both





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Sounds like your going to be able to make lemonade out of your lemon. Your both lucky KIDS to have such good parents. You are no more to blame for the pregnancy then she is, it takes two. Standing beside during this type of thing shows you got the makings of a man. Just sit down and talk to her about it, it is only six weeks, but let her know where you stand, she can always go to school a little later.
you are very fortunate to have such supportive parents. a baby is not going to hold her back it seems like you have all the help you need. You should take the help from your parents and go on with your plans. if she can go to school close to home it will be fine. And as time goes on and you get settled in your situation you can start to become more independent from your parents. It seems as though you are more worried about yourself that her because you keep saying you are sad. you need to figure out how you feel about the situation and tell her now because you cant act like you are supportive now and bail out later. good luck! you should not be worried most people in your situation are not as lucky
It is great that you want to support ur girlfriend, but there are also community colleges for nursing and that way she can be home with the baby to. Another words, it isn't just one of the parents responsibility it is both, and there is no reason that you both can't attend a community college and both of you get a degree. Don't get married just because of the baby. In the long run that will just hurt the child. No matter what you two do, do it together or you will end up blaming each other and eventually the poor innocent child.
of course something went wrong with the pill--she didnt TAKE it!!
Keep it in your effing pants you goon.