In need of advice..help me please? :(?

alright here's whats happening...


my boyfriend works on the beach at a jetski place.


and once it was like 2 weeks since i've seen him,


so i got veryy frustrated and i told my mom what if he was cheating on me or with other girls? so my mom thought it was easy to tell him and so he told him.


he got upset because he thinks i dont trust him.


would you be upset too?





also,he says he thinks he's putting wayy to much effort in our relationship and he feels tht im not doing the same in return.


he pleases me and i try to do it but i just get shy.





im 15 he's 17.


would all this upset you too?


do you think he has a reason to be upset towards me?


helpppp!





I THINK HE REALLY DOES SACRIFICE HIMSELF ALOT FOR ME!In need of advice..help me please? :(?
i do agree the age difference is a bit drastic but if you are comfortable dating an older guy and you family is too then go for it. who am i to really frown on a relationship with an age difference. im about to be 23 and my boyfriend just turned 28. anyways back to your topic. i think being honest about your feelings with your partner is essential for a functioning relationship. anyone that is really out to put out any suspicion about their actions would have reacted differently. if he didnt have anything to hide then he would have been like ';dont think like that. im not cheating. i would never hurt you.'; and so on. if he had nothing to hide then he would have had no problem telling you to come and visit him or what ever. now someone with something to hide would have done exactly what he did. i say talk to him again and this time have a more calm conversation. tell him to listen to what you have to say and how you feel. insecurities kept under wraps only cause more trouble...trust me i have been there. it almost ended mine and my current boyfriends relationship. i think you do need to be more open to the idea of a relationship. i know that they can be scary and you dont want to be hurt. but thats the whole point of it. you have to put yourself out there as do they and that is one function that is needed to have a good connection.In need of advice..help me please? :(?
I know ppl probably say this to you all the time, but you are 15 so everything probably seems overly dramatic even when it's not. One thing is if someone goes weeks without making an effort to see you, he's probably got interests elsewhere. Give it time...I'm sure you'll figure it out.
trust him but dont give him too much of a lead if you dont see him very often call him a few times a day(if he is not that busy)


and i would be upset if i was accused of cheating and i didnt but if he acted infuriated then well he is cheating(furriated like he started yelling and cussing and stuff)
I think he is over reacting. He is getting defensive which i would see as a sign he is hideing something. I would go see him and talk face to face about your relationship and look for signs like he won't look you in the eyes or is still defensive then something might be going on.
Try being honest, and let him know sometimes you are worried but only because you like him. Tell him you will work on being more trusting. And try to please him the way he does you. Even if it means talking to him about it and asking him to help ease you into it until you're more comfortable.
Hi hun,





I think maybe you guys should compromise and give him the benefit of the doubt till you find him guilty.





For now, enjoy what you guys have - if you catch him cheating then get back to me guuurllfrend ;)





xoxo
well its alot of stuff, trust is earned through time...and if your try to do everything you can for him, well thats all you can do, maybe he should see how much you trying for him for a change
He's at a different point in his like as are you.2 years is not a big number but in the teen years yes it is.


You need to date someone your age.
i think he just feels very unappreciated and i also think that you should trust him or atleast make him think you do. idk tell him what he wants to hear. all guys like that.
i mean its's a little bit extreme but there's two sides to everything. maybe he was having a bad day. you guys should talk it out.
ONLY THE GUILTY BECOME DEFENSIVE.
relationships are based on trust. if you loose trust, one of you should walk away from it. I would be upset. please note that unless you see things with your eyes, then nothing happened.
he is definetely see'ing someone else.you both are way too young to be thinking about such things..you are way too attached and should move on...
move on. he's definitely seeing other girls...
i agree, and you seem a little attached and desperate.
Ifmits not working now it wont ever work i think it should be ended
one thinks that he (your boyfriend) has gotten upset because there might have been some bases of truth in his reaction
You're too young for him. Date someone your own age.
i think that both you and ur boyfriend are coming from reasonable mindsets.. obviously if you havent seen your boyfriend in two weeks ur gonna get nervous that hes cheating on you etc... however imagine if ur bf thought you were cheating on him-it would probably upset you that he didnt trust him. this small fight seems to have brought up a lot of hidden feelings. how long have you two been going out? if its been a while then its reasonable tht you two would have problems at one point but if you like each other enough then youll both try to work it out.. if its been issues since the beginning maybe this isnt the best relationship for either of you.. if its meant to work out then he shouldnt be making you feel so terrible about urself he would understand that you try just as hard as he does but ur shy!! everyone has their own quirks and you both need to accept each others... if its worth it to you then definitely talk to him.. if you dont think this is a good relationship then you also definitely need to talk to him aabout that.. just remember that ur only in highschool and there will be a lot more dating later on in life!..... good luck!!