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My ex broke up with me about a month ago. We are in the same major at our small school and see each other constantly. When he broke up with me we were working on a project together, and we finished it two weeks after the breakup. When we broke up, I agreed to it. I explained that I didn't want it but I accepted it. I started using my new free time to work more on school, and even started dating again. I didn't tell him directly that I was dating but he figured it out. (when I say ';dating'; i don't mean looking for a new boyfriend, just going out with guys and having a good time, experiencing single life with other single men). He later admitted to me that my dating other guys made him jealous, but he didn't want to get back together.


Now I can't pretend my cool composure lasted long - almost immediately I started drunk dialing him. While sober, I was fine. But I would call him when I was drunk and do the usual crazy ex thing.


You'd think that would have scared him away. But it didn't. In fact, he wanted to hang out with me besides working on the project. I asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits and he said it would be awesome if that worked (yeah, i admit it, i just didn't want to give up my intimacy with him). So for about a week we continued our sexual relationship as hanging out. (yes, i was still doing other things and going out on my own and with other men). Then one night we had one of the usual stupid fights we had when we were together, he called me a selfish ***** and left me. The next morning I made a fool of myself, crying and begging for him back on the phone. By the end of the conversation I calmed down and we agreed to stop sleeping together and just be friends.


That didn't last long. And it was him who started it.


At one point he said to me, ';How is it that we can make each other so upset, and other times so happy?';


Now, a month after the break up, we've been seeing each other every day outside of class, sleeping together, etc. Last week my electricity went out and he let me stay with him until it was fixed. The night it was fixed he asked me to stay again.


I went on a trip to Chicago for a couple days and when I came back he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him. We did. When we were hanging out afterwards, we got in an argument, and he changed it from a heated debate to a mean spirited fight when he started accusing me of personal things that had nothing to do with the subject of the debate. I got very upset and tried to leave. He told me I was being weak and apathetic. I blew up and told him it was the opposite of apathy, it was me leaving so this didn't turn in to anything bigger. Then he told me I had too much control over him. And then I broke down. I feel like I'm not in control at all, and I told him that. I still want to be with him and he's the one who doesn't want to be with me - he gets to decide whether we see each other, he gets to decide whether we sleep together, etc. I haven't asked any questions about the status of our relationship 'til now because I didn't want this to end. I told him I liked the way things had been going because he made me happy. And he said I make him happy too. I told him that I felt so guilty because I could have done things differently to make our relationship work (and I really do feel that way) and he said ';We just never were going to work. It isn't your fault.'; BUT I DON'T THINK THAT. I think we COULD work!


I got too upset and didn't want to reveal too much about what I want from him because I didn't want things to change - it was late at night anyway and he said he was tired. So I left in tears.


He texted me and said he didn't know what I meant by being a bad girlfriend because I wasn't. I told him I was a bad girlfriend, because he didn't want me anymore. He texted me again and said that had nothing to do with my ability to have a successful relationship. I told him I agreed, but it had everything to do with me having a successful relationship with HIM, because I never saw it as unsuccessful, I didn't want it to end, and in retrospect I feel that I could have prevented it. He said nothing in response.


Then I said something that screwed everything up.


';If we are never going to work out then we are never going to work out and we need to stop f-ing around. I don't believe that and it's doubtful that I will if I continue to be around you and know what it is I'm wishing for. I can't be your friend anymore. I've just been kidding myself in to thinking you'll give me a second chance. I'm sorry. Goodnight/bye.';


He didn't say anything. I didn't know what he was thinking. Was he agreeing with me? Disagreeing? Why wasn't he saying anything? So I said, ';I need you to say it too. Don't give me false hope.'; And again, he said nothing. So I called him... over and over and over, and left him two messages sobbing about how he needed to stop ******* with me and tell me what it was he wanted.


I fell asleep.


I woke up this afternooLike giving relationship advice? Help me out.?
please don't call or text him again.move on!!!!!!