I need some advice, help, anything really.?

ok so ill start off by saying im 18 years old. i've never been on a date with a girl, never kissed, never had a girlfriend. I'm really not a shy person. im nice, funny, for the most part outgoing. but there seems to be a reoccuring problem. anytime i meet a girl, or attempt to get close to a girl (to eventually ask out on a date or something), i get nothing. i get shot down, lied to, ignored, or stood up. for a while, it never really bothered me. i kept my head up and moved on. but lately, ive been slipping into a sort of depression. im getting these strong feelings of loneliness. i know i shouldnt rely on a girl for my own happiness, but like, when you like a girl (or guy for girls reading this), you know you get a happy, warm feeling, and its great, you dont want it to go away. but when it does cause your shot down or ignored, it hurts and your happiness fades. thats what been happening to me. i ran into this new girl and we talked for a while, got to know each other, things were good. i got her contact information and a week later i asked her on a date. she hasnt gotten back to me for a while, and she ignores any wall comments on facebook. like, why am i having such bad luck. im just sick of being alone, sick of the heart aches, i dont want to fall into a deep depression. and my friends just tell me ';oh dont worry, you'll find the right girl... or youre time will come... or when you least expect it, you'll find someone'; easy for them to say when they've all had a gf or have one. just idk... i guess this is more of a vent really.I need some advice, help, anything really.?
Hi Dear





Be yourself and you will find one soonI need some advice, help, anything really.?
honestly it doesnt sound like a girlfriend is nessicarily what you need... more like a best friend thats a girl because then you can have a playful flirty thing which gives you that same kind of feeling you described and also having a friend thats a girl could help you get a girlfriend because girls read other girls better then any guy can...





and if you do need to talk anymore about this kind of thing you can email me. i'd be happy to help more (:
you kow hun i woul date you but i most likly live in another city, i also am taken/ madly in love and im 15 i think they call that Jail bait?
do not rush it you will find the right person in do time and you will be surprise she will be the love of your life don't rush it just think god is the person that you need to talk to cause it takes a full year for god to prepare the right person for you so you need start preparing your self for that person
you need to stop looking.. get that self esteem back! like YOU said.. you cant be happy until you are happy w/ yourself! not every one is cute and super hot but everyone ends up w/ someone.. are you trying to get girls out of your league? work on yourself.. learn to love yourself i'm doing it now and its hard! i really need a guy to tell me i am sexy etc.. to feel good but learning i dont need that to feel good. and i'm just figuring this out @ midlife sweetie! xo
Your friends are right though it doesn't seem to help you. Just keep putting yourself out there. Don't give up on this, next time you meet a girl, make plans as well as getting her contact info. Be confident and maybe a little mysterious, make them wonder what will be next. Good Luck!
aww i'm so sorry that keeps happening to you. but if i were you in that situation i would go with what your friends are telling you, it might be hard but it's still good to kno you have people there to support you. Remember just because a girl hurts you does not mean you should tell yourself that you aren't good for anyone. There is more than just one girl in this world.
well if you want to me to be completely honest..


do you think you are attractive? i know it shouldn't matter, but it does. and you seem like your personality and you are awesome.. so i don't know what else could be the problem! but yes your time will come don't worry.. look at all the beautiful girls that are single, you are single too. i am single. being single is better than being in a relationship that has problems and cheating. right? cheer up :)
I know exactly how you feel. I didn't have my first real love till I was 18/19. He was my first for EVERYTHING.





I think you need to be more confident. Women can SMELL confidence from a mile away and they will Swarm at it. I'm not joking. I can pick up women at straight bars, when I'm looking for men... When I feel just right about myself. (I'm a chick)





When you get a girls digits, act cool. Say ';Thanks, I'll be callin.'; and walk away, don't attempt an OMG she is interested in me- converstion those usually ruin the deal.





And I don't know what your hygeine and looks are like but, shower. daily. Take a trip to Hollister, or if you like the grunge look The Buckle/Zumies. Get some New threads. (Just a word to the wise, no matter how retro or cool star wars or lord of the rings Tshirts and the movies sound... they aren't. )


Do you have a uni-brow? Do you wear deoderant? Do you brush your teeth daily? (I'm in SD and a lot of people here (Farmers) don't.) Do you stand up straight ? (Try it if you don't, big difference)


Try going tanning at a tanning bar, color does everyone some good.


Crest White strips work wonders. (Make sure your teeth aren't stained from juices or coffee.. yah know?)





Trim up the eye brows, make sure you don't have nose hair sticking out. Get some hair gel and make sure you know how to use it. Get contacts if you wear glasses (Just for a 'new you' look)


and smile.





Cleaning yourself up and knowing that a bunch of hawt @ss chicks are checkin you out is going to help with the confidence.





I know it all seems superficial, but It doesn't sound to me like you have come out of your shell at all. You still the same guy you were back in 10th grade. Break that mold babe. Changing how you look and feel about yourself is going to change other peoples perspectives of you.





Personally, I went through all of that change and more, and it helped me find out that I think looking good is key to success both professionally and personally... It also helped me be more confident in asking guys out and made me happier to know I was desirable.





I know now, that if guy gets my number he might call a week later, or that same day.. What do I care, I have a life. If he doesn't call... its not the end of the world, I have Sh!t to do and I'll live. There are always more people out there.





Take a different approach to how you are doing things... I guess thats what I am trying to say, figure out a new way into the dating scene.


And the girls that don't give you the time of day, give em' hell about it.


Or give me their names and I'll do it ;)





Chicks are NOTHING to get depressed about, we aren't that special anyway. We are emotionally unstable, dependant, narsassitic, half wits, and half of us don't know a good thing even when it hits us square in the face.





HTH





XO~
ok this is a great question for me to answer, not about never having a girlfriend, but getting over the depression regarding relationships. Me and the love of my life broke up about a year ago and me being depressed was an understatement. I actually caught myself with a gun in my hand about to commit suicide! I wanted her SOOOOOOOOO bad, you really have NO IDEA. I lost all intrest in things i normally would kill to do, i didnt eat, i couldnt sleep, all the worst things happened to me. Then out of the blue i snapped out of it, i started going out again with friends and my life is great now, and i look back and say i cannot believe i was like that. So hang in there, you have probably heard this a million times, and dont worry cause there was NO ONE that was more skeptical about that than me, but you will be happy again, guaranteed! just give it time. and remember this is coming from someone that more depressed than any human on the planet!!