Friday, January 8, 2010

I need some advice/help plz?

i just turned 15 i have been taken out of school when i was in first grade and i have been homeschooled ever since


i never ever leave the house unless i go grocery shopping with my grandma (i live with her) and i dont have any friends and im not allowed to go off on my own in the store and i cant leave the house unless someone is with me and that means i never get out because no one ever wants to go anywhere with me and there is no money :(i met this boy on the internet and they dont know yet but i asked could have a friend/boyfriend and they said no my dad is a selfish drug addict who only cares for himself and my mom is careless but not as bad as my dad he is always putting me down and calling me a whore and i feel like dying should i just stay locked in my bedroom untill im 18 or what? do you think what they are doing is fair? my grandma is my only friend the only one i really realy care for but shes in a bad marrige and shes always depressed and that makes me sad what should i do?I need some advice/help plz?
People have given you good advice here. About being careful who you meet on the internet. It really is dangerous to go off alone to meet a guy. He could be 40 years old and really hurt you. Also it seems good advice to tell a social worker, teacher, police officer or someone you can trust about your dad being a drug addict and you situation. You are not getting enough socialization I think and that can cause you to make some mistakes like meeting a person you think you know over the internet. good luckI need some advice/help plz?
Sit down and talk to your grandma.


1. The situation is not tolerable on a social level... you are missing out on a lot of inter-social education that only comes from associating with groups of kids your own age. This is the ultimate laboratory for learning social skills.


You need to go to a regular school... you might as well because your parents are already paying the taxes that pay for the local schools.





2. Ask about getting a job during the summer and after school. This will enable you to save some money and gain some real world job skills. See if your grandma will take you to a bank and help you open a savings account.





3. See if there is a nice church near you. The youth group can provide social interaction, and the youth minister can provide counseling services to help you through these rough spots.





4. Don't listen to your dad. He has no self-esteem and doesn't want you to have any. You only have 3 more years before you are 18 and can walk away from there. You might as well start a real plan to make your escape.


You will need money for a deposit on a place to live and probably utilities... even if it is a small garage apartment.


A job history will help you float a loan on a little used car AND float any college loans you may need if you can't get any grants or scholarships.
You should find a Big Brother Big Sister thing in your town. You sound like you really need more adults in your life. Good adults. Always remember - public school is free. I hate to say this - and I know it would be very hard to do because of your grandmother, but you should consider calling social services yourself. No one should live in the enviroment you live in. I think it would be WAY better for you in the long run, because your grandma can't help you until she can help herself. Same goes for you parents. There are TONS of parents who would totally appreciate you and spoil you. %26amp; just because you don't live with you grandma doesnt mean you cant see or talk to her often.
DAMN! that must suck! Well I'm glad you at least have the Internet! what the heck would we do without it!!!





I think you be careful talking to the guy on the Internet because it could be an old creep!! Tell you grandma you need more freedom...you need to socialize with teens your own age!!





Good luck!! wish u all the best!
I'm so sorry.


Honey you are being abused...this shouln't be happening to you. You need to tell the police so the can call chil welfare and get you out of that house and away from the enviroment you are growing up in. They will also help grandma once you begin to tell your story.


you're asking the wrong people for help but you are asking, that's good.


don't run away unless you run to the cops and stay away from the internet dude, he could be a psycho


God keep you safe.
I'm sorry but you do have the chance to talk to people on the Internet. Do not think bad of your self and try to get your mom to get you into a youth counseling because it is apparent that you need it. They may talk to your mother and help he. Drug addiction is he** and to be child in it is worse. tell your mom you do not like being called unworthy name and for your self esteem that has been tore down would she please try to help you rebuild it before you go out into this world and you get yourself into a mess that can not be fixed. Like some of these guys on the Internet . A girl I know end up with a virgin hunter on myspace and he used her and I think in one year he had 6 I'm not sure , but it continued for a while and then he broke her heart and I hear that was one of the nice guys on myspace. So be careful. people will take advantage of you. Being in a abusive and controlled situation.
For starters, please dont look on the internet for a boyfriend. It is a scary place to look especially if your 15.


Talk to your grandma, and explain to her that you need a little freedom, and that you arent going to do anything wrong. Maybe start by asking to just go for a walk around the block, or something to build the trust.

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