In-Laws! Need advice, Help?

I have been married to my husband for 14 years. When I first met his family, they were not welcoming at all. Nothing has changed. He has one sister who was friendly to me only when she was going though her divorce, because she didn't want her cousins and aunts to know what was really happening. My mother-in-law is now ill. They have been attacking me that I don't do enough. I have an elderly father who is losing his sight, a brother who is getting over a serious illness and my own problems. I help when I can and It's never enough. My husband's cousins don't even visit my mother-in-law! My husband has had enough, and tells me to ignore them, but I hate that they are talking trash about me and are so mean.Please, any advice?In-Laws! Need advice, Help?
It is wonderful that your husband supports you. Keep doing what you are doing. Your plate is full. Hold your head up and be firm. One thing I have learned is that you cannot change other people's behavior and it is important to ignore them when they talk about you like that. As long as you know you are doing what you can and your husband supports you, that is all you need. Bless you.In-Laws! Need advice, Help?
Why did it take you 14 years to complain? Your husband tells you to ignore them because he doesn't have the balls to confront them and tell them to knock it off. You married a weenie.
This issue is completely not your problem, it is THEIRS. If your in-laws have yet to welcome you into the family after 14, they are the ones that are missing out. You have your husband's support which is the most important thing, and it sounds as though he understand how inconsiderate and cruel his family is behaving. You are, and have been a part of their family, whether they like it or not, and they need to realize that they need to change their petty behavior or risk dividing their family.





It is not your responsibility to take care of your mother-in-law. You have enough on your plate, and to be honest, she does not sound like the type of woman that deserves your care. Additionally, it is not your responsibility to make them like you. You are not a 16 year old girl that their son/brother is bringing home to ';meet the family';, you are his wife and his family, and there is no need to ';pass the test'; or convince them to like you. Has you husband tried talking to them to explain how they are making you feel? Has he let them know this is unacceptable?





Keep your head up and continue to be the bigger person! Shame on them! If you want some more feedback, check out Leftos.com (I sometimes post here and get good responses) or YourTango.com.