I Need Advice / Help Please !!!!!!?

I am a stay at home mom... I have a 3 year old boy and a 2 year old girl and iam 4 months pregnant with our 3rd child....





Where I need my advice is.... I am so tired i don't feel like cooking maybe once a week now i will cook dinner. I don't feel like doing the dishes and I don't feel like doing the Landry... Everything is so backed up and its getting depressing... iam just so tired and i have my daughter therapy 3 times a week at my house and i keep the family room clean almost all the time for that reason.!





Well my husband and I argue all the time over the house work when he gets home... I know some of it is my fault for being lazy! But my back hurts sooo bad... (I am a Bigger woman) so its even hard going up and down the stairs!





Anyways am I just being lazy and need to suck it up... or is there any advice you can give me to try and keep my house clean! also note my husband is like a 3rd child.. i am always picking up after him too. and i have pretty much raised my white flag now!I Need Advice / Help Please !!!!!!?
Hi Anna:





I would suggest going for a walk after lunch AND after dinner.


If he doesn't like the idea after dinner, suggest he stay home and do his own laundry, do the dishes, clean up the tv room or whatever.





Going for a walk, even a short one at first, gets you outside, gets you exercise and will strengthen your back, legs, knees etc. It will get you breathing... get you going. If you dont do something, all of the above could just get worse.





Make a ';to do'; list and show it to him. Have a plan for every day of the week. If you can, assign a few of the jobs to him. That way you will feel more in control of things, more organized and he will get an idea of all the things you do every day. Plan your meals. Cook doubles and freeze the 2nd part for later in the month. Use a slow cooker. Easy recipes are everywhere. Keep in mind, as a Mom to be, you don't need any extra stress from your ';3rd child.'; Tell him to cook, barbecue or take you out once in a while. Eating out = no dishes!!! Yeah!!!





Turn the computer and tv off. Go for that after lunch walk even if it's only for 2 minutes out and two minutes back. Tomorrow make it 3.


You will feel better. When your little ones have a nap, have one too even if only for five minutes. ';Quiet time.'; No stress. Don't worry. It will all work out. I hope this helps you. I gotta go for my walk now:)I Need Advice / Help Please !!!!!!?
Only thing i can think of is get a maid.. Or sometimes in the newspaper here there are teens that will babysit and clean house for very reasonable prices, i dont know if you have those types of ads in your newspaper, but you should looks
I can understand why you feel overwhelmed! It's perfectly normal. I was really stressed when I had to watch two kids and clean up after them. But one thing I learned to do when I try not to feel overwhelmed is to maybe ask your husband to do maybe two or three things of housework. Such as vacuum, dust/clean windows or even tidy up once a week. It would be light housework for him to do and it won't take that long. That right there would be a big help for you. And maybe give yourself 20-30 minutes every other day to do work around the house. You'd be so surprised by how much you can do. If you still can't do it, why don't you try hiring someone independent to do the housework once a week. Usually the girls that are independent are way cheaper then maid services and they actually do a better job. Some charge by the hour and some charge by the job.


If your back hurts that bad why don't you try taking medicine or use a heat pad and rest up when you are on break. You are not being lazy, your husband needs to help around the house. You have two kids and your pregnant! There is only so much you can do. Good luck!