Im scared of failing my life, advice/help?

Please help!


Im 17, and its probably a teenage thing, but Im absolutely terrified of messing up my life. I don't really understand why, because I've been told by all my teachers and people that I'm very intelligent, that I have a good character, also that I'm good looking, etc, but I feel that if I don't do well in exams (even though I think I did),, that's the end of it. It tortures me to think that I wasted all my potential just because I didn't do well in my exams and I just need to get my results to feel contented. This feeling of inadequacy is eating away at me inside and I don't know what to do, I hate this whole education system but realise that its that or nothing, and I just don't want to end up in some awful job and flunk everything,


Help?Im scared of failing my life, advice/help?
This fear is what helps keep you on the straight and narrow......do your best and if you make a mistake pick your butt up and try again.....your fears and concerns show me your heart is in the right placeIm scared of failing my life, advice/help?
I am in no way qualified to assist you in a professional manner, but as a fellow human, I feel obligated to try to help you however I can.


First, it's not a teenage thing - we are ALL terrified! I'm 42, and past worrying about my future. However, now I'm terrified that I'm going to screw up my children's lives! Everyone is frightened about something - even those who are dripping with confidence. It sounds like you may be having a kind of anxiety attack about your exam results. It's quite likely that if you think you did well, then you probably did.


Second, you must fight the feelings of inadequacy. These feelings are built in so that we always strive to do better, so we don't get too cocky, and so we won't just settle for mediocrity. You are definitely on the right track by doing well in school and wanting to get a good job. I hope you plan to go to college, because if you don't, you won't have a shot at landing any kind of decent job. And if you do find yourself in a job that you hate, please search for another or you will regret it (BUT! don't quit until you find a new one).


Here are some little tidbits of wisdom, passed down to me by my father mostly. I would love for my children to take them from me, too, but all they hear me say is ';blah, blah, blahdy, blah, blah.


1. Be true to yourself. You don't owe anyone anything.


2. Never lie. If you already have lied, start today with a clean slate.


3. Set realistic goals for yourself. Even reaching little goals is better than having none at all.


4. Winners never quit, quitters never win.


5. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you. As long as you know you are good and right and true, then you are.


6. Stand by your decisions. Even the stupid ones. This way you will have no regrets.


7. Learn from your mistakes. Try not to repeat them.


8. Everything happens for a reason.


9. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.


10. What comes around, goes around. Practice good Karma.
honestly, your feelings of stress will probably hold you back more than anything. if you can just calm down and let what ever happens happen and just roll with the punches, you will feel so much better and things will probably just work out. by worrying and feeling stressed you are really hurting yourself more than helping yourself. next time you get worried, just think ';will stressing about this really change the outcome?'; because often times it won't. for example, if you just took a test and feel it went poorly, will stressing really help you? no. trust me, I used to be the same way as you when i was younger, but i just stopped letting stress get to me and things are working out just fine. i've been accepted to an awesome college and i have a great boyfriend and everything is fine because i don't let the things i can't control get to me. just find a way to relax and you will do great!





good luck!