Need serious advice! help!?

ok, i asked this previously: so there's this guy.. (hmm, the story of my life.) and he's not exactly the most attractive guy out there, actually kinda unattractive, and i never ever thought of him as more than a friend (actually, he was more the friend of a friend.) until he asked me out a couple weeks ago. but i don't know if he really liked me or if it was just a fling type of thing. so now i catch myself thinking about him! where did this come from?! i kinda enjoy flirting with him, but i hardly ever talk to him, so it's not obsessive. but, i think i might like him?! i can't believe i'm even saying that. he happens to be my ex's best friend, not that it matters. anywho, he's kinda quiet and shy but he seems nice and funny. but how do i get to know him better so i can figure out if i do like him? have any of you went through this type of thing? do you think i like him? WHAT DO I DO?!?





and here's the new details:


conversation between me and a mutual friend:


friend: ';so would you ever go out with _____?';


me: ';oh geez. i don't even know him, so no, not right now.';


friend: ';_____ told me he likes you. i asked him if he did and he said yes i do. seriously. not lieing.';


me: ';umm ok.';


friend: ';will you go out with him then?';


me: ';no. i already told you that.';


friend: ';but the only way ur gonna get to know him is if you talk or date'; (ya, she has a weird view on this.)


me: ';i'd rather talk to him before i date him. if i date him. if he wants to talk to me, he can talk to me.';





well then he texted me for like 3 minutes. very awkward. what should i do?!Need serious advice! help!?
Hmm...Interesting, very interesting in deed, LOLL...If you want to try to get to know him, try talking to him, you know and if you feel like your not ready for a date, just hang out or go to the cinema or watch a movie!!!, Besides, who knows...you might even be considering going out with him - and maybe you'll like him!!!, But thats just my opinion ;)...I hope everything works out, Good luck and I hoped I helped :)!!!Need serious advice! help!?
You answered your own question in your little convo! You should talk to him and get to know him before you jump into a relationship with him. Not to mention you started this off by saying he is not attractive and then you said he is your ex's best friend and I personally would say that right there is off limits. Just my opinion on this matter.
You should try and get to know him more, maybe hang out with him more and try to get to know him, then decide.


I think the reason you think you like him is because you know he likes you, trust me I do it all the time.
Hell go for if that what you wanna do don't let anyone elses views about him change how you feel... I think your self conscious about what other people may think cause he's not cute... But do what your heart tells you to... its better than anything i could ever say =)
oh man! I definatly feel the same about this other guy, except he didnt ask me out.. :/


lucky you ;)


why not try!


Better to have loved and lost then never loved at all :)





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Talking can never hurt anyone! Just approach him at the right time, not around friends. Make sure that you are prepared... Flirt, get to know him! He likes you and you like him. dont make this hard! i hope that i helped=] good luck
I only read the top half. It seems you dont like his LOOKS too much, but perhaps like his personality. Just talk to him, see what he drives or what he does, and ask him about that stuff, goodluck
just talk to him
ahah introduce yourself in person and if he asks you out quickly then his not really interested in you, his just desperate. or it could be opposite. idk really.
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get talking. if you like him then you go ahead.


(oh yeah and tbh, you're friend is a bit of a nob)
My Personal Advice: STAY THE F*** away from ';Nice';, ';Quiet';, and ';Shy'; ones!!!
if u think you like him, then give him a chance, go out with him...if not, then just talk to him whenever you happen to see him next
Just go on a date with him. Seriously it's not a big deal and if u don't like him after that let him know. Or just stop talking to him all together LOL.
I think you should just approach him %26amp; talk to him. Get to know him better. And you can also talk with his friends %26amp; find out his personality %26amp; stuff like that. Good luck (:
Give him a chance. Set up a date with him and go on from there.
throw the dog a bone, he'll probably appreciate you more than anyone else ever has
You should go out with him!
do him
just go out wit him!
just talk to him
i think u did ur part wit the friend thing.........u told her.she doesnt seem interested.......an i think he may like u........so jus go hang out wit him.........give it a chance
Yes i know how you feel and this is what you do.





Tell him your not sure if you want to date him. That you want to get to know him first before you two get together.





Well if you think about maybe your just a little lonely and considering something you don't want and you know you don't want it. It may not be this but i've been through it. If you stay lonely for too long you start to grab whatever you can get.





So no you don't like him but it depends.
ok, chill out! there is a difference between ';dating'; and ';going on a date';... dating is exclusive, and means you wouldn't see anybody else while you guys are dating... going on dates implies just hanging out, with romantic intentions implied... first, i would give this guy a chance, you may be surprised... for almost any guy who asks me out, i give him one date... the most you lose is an evening out, and who knows what you will gain... texting is a great way to get to know someone as well... after you go on your first date, reevaluate and see if you still like him... if so, great, just keep it moving from there... if not, let him down gently, and both of you can move on... good luck!
let him call you and talk to you. If you don't like him there is nothing that says you have to date him. Just specify that you aren't sure about him because you don't know him very well and if you really need an excuse just say it is awkward because he is your ex's friend.
slowly try and get to know each other. your not gonna know each other over night its going to take some time. see where it goes from there and whether you really do like him. sometimes the last person that would come to mind turns out to be the one who grows on us and be the person you fall for. give it time and see where the future takes you.