A screwed up situation??? I need some advice, help.?

Me and my bf have been dating 4 months, it has been really rocky, and i have been unhappy. I talked to my bf, and told him i wasnt sure of my feelings, and we both sort of revealed that we love eachother, but weren't 'in love' He basically said he enjoyed my company, and says that keeps coming back and trying. We are both 20 and virgins, so we both decided that we are going to take things further, but we were both worried this would lock us down.


This is the screwed up part, i really want to have sex with him, as i trust him and care about him, but i'm not sure i want the relationship to continue. Not being 'in love' isn't good enough and i want something more. What is the right thing to do in the senario, i already told him honestly how i felt. that i just wanted some fun.A screwed up situation??? I need some advice, help.?
If you're looking for fun, don't look for it in sex. Especially if you are both virgins. As much as I hate to say it, girls especially tend to get caught up with the emotions of ';making love';.





As complicated as your situation seems, sex will only make matters worse especially if you guys are only 4 months along together %26amp; already hitting major boulders in the road.





The right thing to do is continue to talk out both of your feelings. If you guys really want to make it work, then you two will figure out some way to compromise to ease the fighting %26amp; actually have a relationship than a drama scene. If you both decide once %26amp; for all that you guys want to end it you can get your mind off of him by hanging out with your girlfriends %26amp; concentrating on whats most important for you--whether it be school, or work, or whatever..





If you've waited all this time %26amp; you give it to the one boy you love, but are not ';in love with';, you will definitely regret if Mr. Right happens to be the next guy you meet.A screwed up situation??? I need some advice, help.?
I really believe you and him should break up.


Sex is not something that should be done ';just because.';


Since you two are not in love per-say, and are virgins, sex could make this whole situation incredibly complicated.


I wouldn't have sex with him. You could make everything really awkward.


Plus, i'm assuming you'd want your first time to be amazing, right?


Don't waste your first time, you'll never get it back.
Use a condom. If you want to get pregnant, wait at least until you get married. Make sure that this relationship will last. You don't want your baby to grow up without a father. Buy some birth control pills if you both don't want to use a condom. If you know that you love him, and you have no doubt about your relationship, then go ahead. He wont be offended by you telling him this either. I'm a guy, and I would understand this too.
85% of people who have sex before marriage have problems in their marriage


Stay pure, don't go for sex because you know you don't want it, he does, and you want to do it to impress him


Save it for marriage, virginity is a mistake that cannot be fixed
if your not in love u really shouldnt have sex with him just to have fun your gonna regret it later and its gonna be akward for both of u guys...





you should just move on and be friends with the guy mayb e that way you'LL feel something else later ....








good luck sweetie
well start to turn him on. make him want you.put on sexy panties, dances play games that can make him horny you a girl you can flirt .what am saying use your body and your mind.boys are weak when it comes to as women.
i think that if you don't feel the relationship should continue, you should just break up and move on. don't have sex, you'll come to regret it later
if you **** him you'll be ';in love'; for like 2 more months if you are virgin and **** for first time you will NOT stop for at least a month, and NO its not true love is just bullshit
Lock u down? Sex is the easiest way for a relationship to end.........he finds out your smelly and u find out he onnly lasts 30 seconds
Agree with mwah's comment
dont have sex with him, break up with him, cuz if not youlll be having sex for the wrong reasons.
Don't do it if you're not ';in love'; with him. It will only make things awkward and hurtful.
if i were u i just screw him and see wat happens...if things doesn't work out then stay as friends and move on....
wow, ummm thats pretty wack. I dont think u need to have sex with him unless u want to marry him. U've waited 20 yrs. Why not wait until u get married which probly isn't too far off? Just be best friends with this guy. Just dont do anything u'll regret. And believe me friends w/ ';benefits'; NEVER works out. Someone gets too attached then the other goes the opposite way, believe me. that much i do know. Im 16 and still a virgin too, and the way i look at it hey u lasted this long why not wait a few more years? good luck
well if you know that your not in love with him then you shouldn't take it any further..sex should be between 2 people that are in love with each other especially if your doing it for the first time..you will never forget your first time and it should be a special memory not something you did to have fun..i give you tons of props for not having sex yet..that's an awesome accomplishment! your body is your temple in all actuality it's all you really have and sharing it or giving a piece of it to someone should be special so i say don't do it until your in love!