Need some dating advice/help please :)?

Hello there. I recently met a guy online and we have agreed to go for coffee on Saturday. I have a habit of messing things up, or saying the wrong thing. (Not intentionally!) I need some advice/help please. I'm a shy person and I never know what to say face to face.(Easier to talk on IM or email) Many people have said to just be myself. :( I don't want to make a fool out of myself. Any advice will be great, thanks. :)Need some dating advice/help please :)?
Just relax!


First, just think about the fact that he's interested enough in you to go to coffee with you. Sometimes that's the hardest part. Don't be afraid to be confident! You rock!


Give him a big smile when you meet. If he doesn't start the conversation, just bring up something very common or that happened recently. It'll be fine from there; if you're nervous, let him take over.


And yes, be yourself. And be happy to be yourself! He asked you out because you're YOU, not because you're someone you're not. If that makes any sense to you.


Good luck! You'll be fine.Need some dating advice/help please :)?
Hi Michelle,


Thing to remember is that he is probably feeling the same way as you are! You are understandably a little anxious but remember he likes you already - your one step ahead! You may already know your common interests to consider questions to ask and things to talk about in relation to this - you probably wont be stuck when the date comes but it helps!


Coffee is a good start - you can choose how long or short it is - remember you are the important one - start thinking about if you like him not if he likes you!


Think of some questions you have not already asked him.


Finally you need to be confident so choose an outfit you are comfortable in - but also one you feel good in.





Good luck and remember to be yourself!!!


x
Make sure you wear something that makes you look good, makes you feel good, and is comfortable! wear your hair like you normally do-


the more normal and comfortable you feel about how you look, the less self-conscious you'll feel :)


your date is probably gonna be nervous too, so don't worry too much. I read somewhere once that while we judge ourselves 98% badly in certain situations, others don't see you as you imagine yourself to be! Most of the time we are WAY too harsh on ourselves! Think about how often you notice when your friends make mistakes? Hardly ever, right? Or else they just laugh it off? See what I'm getting at? Being yourself and taking the necessary precautions so that you'll feel as comfortable as possible will make it a LOT easier to have a good time!





Have fun! good luck! :)
well whoever told you to be yourself is right!! just think, if you are not yourself, and are just putting on an act, then he will think that he likes you, but really you are just a lie! or on the other hand, he will completely hate you and not know why he even went out with you, because the person that he likes, is the charming girl that he met online... so really, just be yourself. its okay if you make a fool out of yourself, most likely it will just make him like you even more!
Before you go on your date Saturday think of some things you could talk about beforehand. Then it will be easier to have a conversation. As for saying all the wrong things, think before you speak even if you're nervous! Take a small pause before you talk, don't feel in any rush to blurt something out, the guy's not going anywhere!
The nervousness is due to your having expectations about wanting it to work out. Wanting what to work out? You do NOT know this person. Relax, and expect it not to work as a romance, and just let it be you are going to meet someone for the first time in person.





You have too many underlying expectations. If you are real desperate or lonely, realize he is also. Have some sympathy to the poor guy who thinks nothing works out for whim EITHER. It will make you realize that we are all scared under it all.
just take it easy and ask about his life family, wear he grew up that sort of thing you'll probably find it will just flow from there. if there is anything in particular you talk about online just talk about things that interest you. he is probably feeling the same way you are so be honest with him and you will get on great





hope it works out for the best :)
If you are just shy, but not rude or insensitive, then probably anything daft you say will not offend or will be forgiven.





It is hard not to be yourself - eventually the real you will slip through.





Find out where they live, where they come from, what they watch on TV...something will flow - and they might be as shy and tongue tied as you are!
Try not to over stress yourself over it. I have a terrible habbit of saying stupid things too. If you do say something bad, try to laugh it off or be like ';wow, I didn't mean that the way it sounded.'; If you are really worried about messing things up, let him do most of the talking. Once you get a person started on something they are interrested in, they will usually talk pretty easily. Maybe bring up something you have talked about online. Hope that helps and good luck! = ]
i have to agree with the people who say ';just be yourself.';


if he likes you, he wont care if you say the wrong thing.


i dont think it will matter, you only met him online. (no offense but i think people who look online are usually desperate... but i havent entered the ';adult world'; yet. im only about 13. sorry if my advice isnt good';.


but he wont be your soulmate. plenty of other people are out there who probably will love you more, and accept you if you DO say the wrong thing.
You just have to get out there and do what you do. Stop caring what other people think about you so much because you ultimately have to just realize that you're gonna do what you want to do and people will respect that and even think it's cool. As a guy, i'm way more attracted to a girl that doesn't care what others think.
Come up with a few questions you can ask when you can't think of anything to say. What are your favorite bands? What kind of music do you like? Have you seen any good movies lately? Ask about his family, where he grew up, how he liked high school, is he close with his brothers/sisters? Then mostly let him talk. Be prepared to answer the questions you ask him.
Would be easier to give you suggestions if you could give examples of how you ';mess things up'; - generally it is good solid advice to simply be yourself. But, if we knew what it is you say/do that messes things up, it might be easier to help guide you past that.
just should just breathe and look at your guy when you talk and if you get nervous you use your hands when you talk that is a winner. and if you lose something to say then you could tink oif the little rascalls and with the frog jumping everywhere in spanky and alfalfa's dress.
He shouldn't care if you act a fool in front of him.


Just be yourself, nothing's worse than a fake.


And if you're worried about saying something foolish, just ask him questions, and listen to him. That way, you wont have to do most of the talking.
well, be careful since you met him online, but try to just act like he's no one special. he's not any different than any of your friends, you just don't know him yet. think of all your positives and just listen to what your gut says when it comes to conversation
ask him about schools he went to, childhood, family, sports.


and ofcourse be your self (: and don't show him that you're scared and unsure. be straigh forward and bubbly every one loves a bubbly personality (:
ask him questions then the pressures on him and you will just have to listen carefully and then go from their...


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You should do something besides go get a coffee. I am the same way that you are and I find it easier to go for a walk at a park or the beach. It seems easier to talk outside. Good luck be careful!
well let him talk 1st....then u kno more about him. try to ask questions but not 2 many!! like if he says ';i like sports'; ask...';whats ur favorite sport'; if he says something ur interested in then pick up on that! hope it goes well!





PS: be urself...lOl!!
I would suggest making a mental list of conversations/questions so you have those to rely on should the conversation not flow at first.


Good luck!
Meeting someone online is the worst way to meet someone. Messing things up should be the least of your worries with this guy.
ask what kinda music he's into,


sisters/brothers


school


hobbies


just get to know him


chill out


and be confident


dont trip out.
Don't open your mouth until you get in bed with the guy.
You might take a nerve pill or have one drink to calm your nerves. Relax he's not a celebrity or the IRS.
Dont act like its a date just a friend meeting a friend
Just look in the mirror and say you are the best and than go outside.
try you best to stay on one topic anfd if you mess up then tell him your a shy person
Be yourself, and if it doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be.





Being anybody else would be a lie
I'd go for expresso.
first dont be super nervous that u goin to mess up jus relax be kool dont let ur nervs take over u.