HUGE problem, badly need advice. Help?

Let's just start by saying that my friend is a kind of jealous, insecure person. He often tries to compete with marks in subtle ways and is a generally selfish, self-serving person. It' just something that I've come to accept and he's a funny enough lad, so it's not all that bad.





But it turns out, that one day when my computer was broken (for a few days) he went onto my myspace with my permission to check my comments and stuff. Well, it just so happens that this girl that I was best friends with and hadn't spoken to in months had sent me a 'message' on that night. I never read that message.





The only conclusion that I can draw is that he saw it, read it, and deleted it. Obviously this is a dog act. He's kinda always had a friendship with this girl and probably liked her at one point in time, but he's never really made his motives clear about her. He always likes/flirts with 'a few' girls at once, not just one, ie not just this one girl.





The point is, what do I do now? Because I don't think that anything beneficial will come out of confronting him about it...but any pain or punishment is the thing that he deserves...





I'm not sure what to do...He definitely deserves it because he's definitely not a good friend but it could affect this girl in that she already has so much on her plate. And I don't want to hurt her anymore than I have, she deserves all the happiness she gets. What to do, what to do?HUGE problem, badly need advice. Help?
TALK TO THE GIRL!


ask her 2 resend the message and change your password so your so called friend cant get hold of your account





good luck!


HUGE problem, badly need advice. Help?
well you need to confront him about it.. you cant just let it slide. You could bring it up without saying he did it persay. And if he doesnt admit to it or just gets mad, hes probably not the best friend. But it seems like you already knew that? Maybe when you you know the kind of person he is, you shouldnt give him passwords.
Sounds like you already made a decision. But if you give him permission to get your messages and you already knew how he is then what did you expect. Talk to him, talk to her. Who is more important?
first of all, change your myspace password so he cant get into it anymore. how about you put some ex-lax in some brownies just for him?
Change your Password, pronto
you should had never gave him your myspace password and now you must change it and don't treat him as nice as you used to
okay so... if you know that she messaged you...


talk to her... explain what happened...


that your comp broke and you had him read and reply to the messages for you because you were unable


ask her what she said


she should be understanding...


talk to him about it... and tell him hes an *** for doing it


but if you talk to him... do it AFTER you talk to her


cuz if you talk to HIM first... he might go to her and tell her hes lying or someting so she wont believe you


so yeah talk ot her...


then go tal to him


hes not a good friend and i wouldnt wanna stay firends with him anyways


if you do stay friends with him... beware... keep an eye out and dont let him get too close
Go tell the girl what happened, that'll be enough punishment for your friend cuz the girl will think hes a liar and not the greatest friend, so she would never want to go out with him anyway, and that way you'll find out what she emailed you. But don't be too mean to your friend cuz I mean he must've done it cuz he likes the girl and even though it was wrong he probably had some kind of reason behind it. If he liked her he was probably taking advantage of the opportunity to get to her right? So don't say anything to your friend, just tell the girl everything that happened (but don't make him seem like a terrible guy, cuz he still is your friend, even if he didn't do the right thing)
Why would confronting your so-called mate affect this girl and cause her pain??





My suggestion would be to talk to her and tell her that you didnt read her message can she send it again.





As for the friend, dont let him access your myspace account again, if you dont have time to read your messages then you should just wait until you do have time to read them.





I would confront him, he isn't a good mate and doesnt deserve to get away with it. maybe he does these things because he knows you wont do anything about it??